Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
There is quite a bit of controversy wrapped around body language… Lie detection, mind reading, fortune telling… you name it; I have heard or read it. But what can we believe? Where do myth and fact part ways to help you learn a skill that is indeed viable for providing accurate information? Let’s chat a bit more about what body language really does tell you and why it is so darn telling… To be accurate, body language will not and can not tell you the “truth” per se. It can tell you that there is incongruity between someone’s language and [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
Body language is a fairly broad and complex topic. It is a fascinating subject and the most alluring aspect seems to be the concept of detecting deception. The term deception has a very negative connotation from a linguistic standpoint. When we think of deception we think of lying, cheating and black alley dealings with no other intent but to injure the other party in one way shape or form. Deception though is simply a misrepresentation. Although it can hurt someone, it can also prevent them from being hurt. Take the following example… Your wife asks you if you think it [...]
Mar
2
2009
by admin on March 2, 2009
The term Eye Accessing Cues refers to the positioning of the eye balls in certain areas when “accessing” information internally. They are based on certain criteria that generally revolve around the VAK predicate system with the addition of a category for raw information. It has been a strong buzz term for years at this point and carries with it quite a bit of controversy. The picture to the left represents a right handed person and illustrates the layout of the cues. There are six access points and they include: Visual Construct – (Vc) Upper Left Visual Remembered – (Vr) Upper [...]
Feb
27
2009
by admin on February 27, 2009
To begin wrapping up our five part miniseries on questions, I am going to give you some examples of each type of questions that we defined in post #3 and then illustrate a scenario where they can be used to further the progress of the communication. Now in rooting around the internet you will find a ton of “types” of questions. I want you to understand that although some of the noted researchers, academics and philosophers of the world may have coined some of the more popular “types”, there is no formally accepted universal grouping of question sets. Some examples [...]
Feb
27
2009
by admin on February 27, 2009
I think it is safe to say that the human race generally doesn’t like to be TOLD what to do. Why can’t you just “tell” someone what to do? Well, in some cases you can… If whatever you are proposing makes blatantly logical sense to both parties and there is equal benefit to both of them, then simply telling the other person what to do does work. The reality of the matter is that not all “scenarios” are created equal. What makes complete sense to one party on the first communication pass-through usually doesn’t make the same sense to the [...]
Feb
19
2009
by admin on February 19, 2009
If you are going to effectively communicate with someone it is imperative that you ensure that they are both hearing and understanding what it is that you are saying. Unfortunately this is very difficult to know for two important reasons: 1. We have developed incredibly powerful subconscious and automatic social mechanisms that help us to facilitate the flow of conversation. Head nods, “uh-huhs” and “mmm’s” are a few of the automatic and more often than not, meaningless recognition gestures that we use. These types of gestures are generally for the purpose of buying time and keeping rapport while communication is [...]
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