Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
Today we are going to talk about how to increase congruence in your body language display and the message you want to send. I will cover 3 of the most often used emotions on a daily basis so that you can see how to work with these on your own. Now there are 8 basic emotions per Robert Plutchik’s Psychoevolutionary Theory and they are: Fear Anger Sorrow/Sadness Joy Disgust Acceptance Anticipation Surprise Robert Plutchik developed what is known as the Psychoevolutionary Theory of emotion and this has turned out to be one of the most influential classification systems for categorizing [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
In following yesterdays post on manipulation of information delivery, let’s get right into the subsequent 2 categories of event prediction and sensory acuity… 1. Prediction of Events: When I say “prediction of events”, what I mean is the ability to assign a probability to whether someone is going to follow through on their assertions one way or another. Again, reading body language can only give you a view into one or both areas of congruence and general mental states. So although you won’t KNOW exactly what they are thinking, congruence or incongruence in their informational message and their nonverbally communicated [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
Yesterday I introduced the 5 questions necessary to direct your mind through the effective usage of body language in any communication effort. I think it is important to repeat the fact that you should be looking to use these questions to TRAIN YOUR MIND through repetition. The length of time necessary for a skill to become automatic is person-dependent so to say how long it will take you to learn this is futile. It depends on how quickly your mind is able to create strong enough bonds to create a neural net. For the middle of the bell curve, if [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
OK, OK… So how do I use body language to be a more effective communicator? Body language can be used for a number of powerful applications in communication and this boil down to how you or the other party is representing congruence in their/your own communication. There are three broad areas of classification where body language can be used for more effective communication: [amprotect=2, 3] Manipulation of information delivery – We can either erase, buffer or amplify the impact of information delivery, depending on how congruent our body language is with the message being delivered at the time of delivery. [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
Incongruence literally means “not harmonious” per Webster’s dictionary (from incongruous). For our purposes this refers to the system of communication and the term system comprises many things… Language, content, abstraction level, tonality, etc… and last but certainly NOT least is body language. Let’s talk a bit further about how and where incongruity happens and how we vet this out… Incongruence/congruence in body language communication happens in five major categories: [amprotect=2, 3] Contextual – The surroundings including both physical and social/cultural. Historical – In reference to the person’s typical method of operation. Content – The actual subject matter and verbiage they [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
There is quite a bit of controversy wrapped around body language… Lie detection, mind reading, fortune telling… you name it; I have heard or read it. But what can we believe? Where do myth and fact part ways to help you learn a skill that is indeed viable for providing accurate information? Let’s chat a bit more about what body language really does tell you and why it is so darn telling… To be accurate, body language will not and can not tell you the “truth” per se. It can tell you that there is incongruity between someone’s language and [...]
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