Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
OK, OK… So how do I use body language to be a more effective communicator? Body language can be used for a number of powerful applications in communication and this boil down to how you or the other party is representing congruence in their/your own communication. There are three broad areas of classification where body language can be used for more effective communication: [amprotect=2, 3] Manipulation of information delivery – We can either erase, buffer or amplify the impact of information delivery, depending on how congruent our body language is with the message being delivered at the time of delivery. [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
Incongruence literally means “not harmonious” per Webster’s dictionary (from incongruous). For our purposes this refers to the system of communication and the term system comprises many things… Language, content, abstraction level, tonality, etc… and last but certainly NOT least is body language. Let’s talk a bit further about how and where incongruity happens and how we vet this out… Incongruence/congruence in body language communication happens in five major categories: [amprotect=2, 3] Contextual – The surroundings including both physical and social/cultural. Historical – In reference to the person’s typical method of operation. Content – The actual subject matter and verbiage they [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
There is quite a bit of controversy wrapped around body language… Lie detection, mind reading, fortune telling… you name it; I have heard or read it. But what can we believe? Where do myth and fact part ways to help you learn a skill that is indeed viable for providing accurate information? Let’s chat a bit more about what body language really does tell you and why it is so darn telling… To be accurate, body language will not and can not tell you the “truth” per se. It can tell you that there is incongruity between someone’s language and [...]
Mar
3
2009
by admin on March 3, 2009
Body language is a fairly broad and complex topic. It is a fascinating subject and the most alluring aspect seems to be the concept of detecting deception. The term deception has a very negative connotation from a linguistic standpoint. When we think of deception we think of lying, cheating and black alley dealings with no other intent but to injure the other party in one way shape or form. Deception though is simply a misrepresentation. Although it can hurt someone, it can also prevent them from being hurt. Take the following example… Your wife asks you if you think it [...]
Mar
1
2009
by admin on March 1, 2009
OK, from the preceding post’s you are crystal clear on what values are and how to classify them. So no let’s talk a bit about what they do and how you can use them. Values have 3 major functions or roles that they play in the course of a person’s life: Motivators – induce valences or the linking of actions that a person will take in response to situations or scenarios. In other words they are a major factor in determining what someone will do in a given scenario… Fight, flight, talk, sit, plan, etc… Values will play a major [...]
Feb
19
2009
by admin on February 19, 2009
Due to the harsh realities of the world and the undeniable necessity to have a mentally stable “human” in order to pass genes on from generation to generation, the evolution of a mind that can ward off negative emotion is one of the end results… There are five major factors that are working constantly to assure that our concept of self and our sense of reality stays in check and there is a sixth mechanism that helps to facilitate their usage during communication. Let’s discuss these first and then we can get into the practical mechanisms we can use to [...]
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