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Listening Strategies

Yesterday I introduced the 5 questions necessary to direct your mind through the effective usage of body language in any communication effort. I think it is important to repeat the fact that you should be looking to use these questions to TRAIN YOUR MIND through repetition. The length of time necessary for a skill to become automatic is person-dependent so to say how long it will take you to learn this is futile. It depends on how quickly your mind is able to create strong enough bonds to create a neural net. For the middle of the bell curve, if [...]

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OK, OK… So how do I use body language to be a more effective communicator? Body language can be used for a number of powerful applications in communication and this boil down to how you or the other party is representing congruence in their/your own communication. There are three broad areas of classification where body language can be used for more effective communication: [amprotect=2, 3] Manipulation of information delivery – We can either erase, buffer or amplify the impact of information delivery, depending on how congruent our body language is with the message being delivered at the time of delivery. [...]

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Today we are going to finish our 4 part professional listening series by talking about quality listening habits that you can begin developing right away and we will look at skill preparation and development at the Macro and Micro levels. First let’s talk about developing quality listening habits. There is simply no silver bullet for doing this. Countless studies have shown that NOT using old habits atrophies the neural net that produces the habit and REPETITION develops new neural nets that create new habits. So the first step is to bring cognition back into the picture. We have already talked [...]

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The true functionality of “listening” to someone really is an elusive concept. When I talk about listening, you most likely think of hearing someone talk… Although this is a PART of the overall equation, it ISN’T THE equation. Webster’s online defines listening as “to hear something with thoughtful attention: give consideration.” This definition is pretty good, but where the proverbial rubber meets that road is in the term “thoughtful attention”. What I mean to bring to light here is the consideration of what “thoughtful attention” means exactly. Now as you can see from my previous posts, there are A LOT [...]

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